The deeper I go into grief, the more important it becomes to track down joy. The more willing I am to look at hard places, the more I need to go be in Beautiful heart spaces. Nature is my super Charger battery, and all of the elements in nature are my friends. Usually I go to these places alone, but I also jump on the opportunity of going with tribe. My connection with nature is a super power, and there are many…many others like me out there. Yesterday, I got to play with a nature sister in one of our favorite spots in Big Sur. It’s funny, because I am much more connected to the creatures when I hike alone, but it’s non stop heart talk when we hike together. A deep, rich, real connection with one of my own species, is also medicine. So love it. When embracing grief, alone time is completely essential, but connection with like minded souls also lifts the load quickly and with ease.
I have unhooked from media coverage for a few days. I don’t even have a television in my home and haven’t for well over a decade but since the Israel/Hamas/US war, I have been tracking things through the news semi constantly on my computer. There is this false premise that if I’m not watching what is happening it will get worse. It is a trauma brain belief. So, I unhooked for a set period of time, a three day media fast. My hike was on day two, yesterday. What prompted the choice to unhook was seeing/reading that President Biden had approved another weapons transfer to Israel, including 2,000 bombs. I knew I had to step back and renew my Spirit rather than get lost in upset.
While I temporarily unhooked from consuming news, I didn’t unhook from the energetic awareness of what is going on. So our power hike, became a power down load at the same time. For my friend it was an opportunity to learn very quickly from my perspective having been in the region, and for me it was releasing the pressure of carrying that awareness alone. The last time we had hiked together was before October 7. So since that time, over 32,000 Palestinians have died (70% women and children) and 136 Israeli hostages are still being held in Gaza now. The awareness is ever present. We talked about how the Holocaust happened, and it was possible because people collectively looked away from the horror at that time. We talked about cyclical violence and trauma. We talked about denial, and about how we are like frogs in the pot with the temperature elevating but ignoring it. We also drank in the beauty surrounding us, and saw how lucky we are to catch each other at a time we could escape into this beauty for a few hours. Friends on the path, holding the awareness of suffering and joy together while sharing our ways of transforming suffering. Nature is a way for us both.
My friend had to go to a work commitment, while I had time to meander. So we agreed to part ways as we started to descend. She was going to run back, and I was going to sing back. Singing to the ones suffering, singing to the beauty all around me, just singing for the joy of song. It’s a way for me to radiate love and lift my Spirit.
There is no faster way out of the mind and into the heart than song. So, out came song as I descended the rest of the way alone. Of course, I’m never alone, but you know what I mean. Before the war, I packed my Mesa on these outings, my medicine bundle of favorite stones. But lately, it’s been ‘good enough’ just to get my butt out in nature. In the past I would take the time to soak my stones in the water and sing to the creek. Lately, it’s an adventure enough to see if I can still hike and I only carry my blessing stick and camera.
Since the rains, this Big Sur hike has several higher than normal river crossings on the way back out. So I was like a happy little kid finding ways over the stream with stones and a wood bridge left by previous hikers. On one such crossing I went down to the big boulders I so love and leaned over. Out fell my iphone into the stream. Oooops. It was the faster moving part of the stream so it was cloudy. A couple who I had seen earlier were passing back by and the woman seemed concerned. I wasn’t. In my mind I immediately went to…’well I could lose my contacts but I can replace them. I could lose the phone but I can replace it. If I were in Gaza…I would not be able to do those things so easily, if at all.’ She asked if I needed help crossing the stream, “No-no, I’m going into the stream.” She still seemed concerned, “This is not a big deal, I could be in Gaza. But thank you for your concern.” She let go and went about her hike and I got down in the freezing cold water with my blessing stick, a huge grin, and my bare feet…playing lets find the hiding iphone. My pants were wet well past the knee and I had no idea if I’d find it. But I was so-so-so alive, and so happy. So much for I don’t have time to soak my feet in the river, I had time to soak my whole being in that cold, beautiful water. I climbed out with the biggest grin ever, and with an iphone.
I’m happy to report, that the phone is indeed water resistent. It is the second time in a few years that my phone has fallen into this same spot and both times I was amazed to see it recover. The joy of cold water, the joy of tall trees, the joy of companionship and the joy of sending love and prayers in all directions embrace grief. Bring relief to grief. I honor both, I smile to both…they are both friends. Grief and Joy flow like a stream, in this collective dream.